5 Sorry Sorries to Avoid as a Leader

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Don’t you hate it when you blow it as a leader?

I’m not talking about getting someone’s name wrong. I’m talking about the “How could I have been so stupid, that was the dumbest, most insensitive thing I’ve ever done as a leader!?” kind of blowing it.

When you’ve been there as a leader, you know your next step usually comes down to one thing leaders often have a hard time doing.

The apology.

One reason leaders sometimes struggle with the apology is that many fall into one of these five apology blunders. If you need to issue an apology, avoid these sorry “sorries”.

1.   The “I’m Sorry to Everyone” Apology

An apology should be limited to the person or people directly offended by the offense.

If you wronged a member of your board, you don’t have to apologize to the entire congregation.

2.   The “I’m Sorry for Everything” Apology

A friend of mine was asked by his church to issue a public apology for a series of leadership mis-steps, most of which were well beyond his responsibility.

Own your stuff, but don’t own everyone else’s stuff.

3.   The “I’m Sorry If…” Apology

Some celebrities and politicians have become masters of this one.

It usually goes like this: “I’m sorry if my drunken behavior caused you any offence…”

We hear the word “sorry”, so we think that was an apology. But it really wasn’t.

Let your “sorry” be “sorry”. Take out the “if”.

4.   The “I’m Sorry, But” Apology

Ever heard one like this?

“I’m sorry for being so rude, but I was really tired.”

Again, it sort of sounds like an apology, because it contains the word “sorry”. However, as soon as you insert the word “but”, it really isn’t an apology anymore.

5.   The “I’m Sorry…Eventually” Apology

The expression “justice delayed is justice denied” has a cousin; “An apology delayed is an apology denied.”

Don’t make the mistake of waiting too long to issue your apology. Own up as soon as reasonably possible.

Let’s face it. If you’re in leadership for any length of time, you will blow it at some point. And you will need to issue an apology.

But by avoiding these sorry “sorries” you can make your road back to credibility much smoother.

What have you learned about saying “sorry” in your leadership?

 

 

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Scott Cochrane

Vice President- International, Global Leadership Network. Love Jesus, Nora, Adam & Robin, Amy, Dave, Willow & Olive and John, Fiona & Will. Lifelong learner.

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